I’ve been thinking about this a lot and have debated about writing on SKB about it. But I just need to get it off my chest. Yes I know no one likes hearing the skinny girl complain but I want to share something just for my own peace of mind.
I have been shamed for being thin my ENTIRE life. When I was a young girl, my family joked about my legs looking like strings. When I lived in New York, I was called a boy in Middle School. Just the other day, I overheard women saying, “Men don’t want a sack of bones.” Its as if thin women are not real? It’s like our bodies should revolve around what men find attractive? It makes me sad.
I have always been naturally slim, a size 0 or I wore kids clothing. I’ve made peace with it and it really wasn’t always easy. As a teenager, I dreamed of getting surgery or doing squats to grow curves. But now… I like my body. I eat good and I work out. It’s not to stay skinny but because I enjoy feeling strong. In my opinion I’m healthy not underweight.
Even after all this I still get called anorexic. It knocks me down always. You have strangers telling me to “eat a burger.” Can you imagine if I told someone bigger to put down the ice cream? And I’m so sorry to say, but it’s usually other women making these comments to me. Its not nice and we should be lifting each other up…whats going on?
I want to end this by saying that I feel body shaming in any form is TOXIC. Absolutely nobody should feel like they are not enough because of their body. Ladies, can we stop the skinny VS curvy debate and just focus on being healthy and happy in our skin and bodies? I would love to hear your thoughts and please let us support women to embrace and love their own skin.
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Sis, im sorry to read this and im hoping you feel better after writing on she knows best. I feel you but also try not to assume that their intention was to humiliate you. It is possible but most of the things that come out of people’s mouths are generated on autopilot. We all have behavioral habits that are opaque to us x
I haven’t always been skinny, I recently lost loads of weight so I’ve experienced both types of shaming and after I lost the weight anytime I mention I’m going to work out or if I eat a healthy meal, people feel the need to tell me to eat a burger or that I’m too skinny or I’m turning anorexic. Like what the hell people, sorry for trying to be healthy.
AGREE!!!! It’s so frustrating that people think they get a say in what’s too skinny or too big. Honey you do you and let them deal with their own issues x
Thank you for addressing an issue such as body shaming. I think it’s something we as women need to talk about more. I have had to speak to some of my closest family and friend privately about my severe acne as their comments have severely effected my self esteem in the past. Many of them didnt even realise how their comments were effecting me and after I spoke to them they made a conscious effort to not mention my skin or acne scars again. It may help addressing these comments to people who you care about and they equally, care about you and arent meaning to upset you. Hope this helps chic xx
Hey girl, look I want to say be yourself and be confident. If you don’t like your shape, you should change yourself. But if you feel you are comfortable with your appearance, you shouldn’t listen to anyone. You matter first and matter the most okay. xx
Heya hun, reading your post was so interesting. Here in the United states we have a huge problem with obesity in my city so people always have something to say bout females weight. If people make comments about your weight just know it’s totally okay to set boundaries. Saying something like “My body isn’t up for discussion” can shut down negativity. Be bold and be brave girl!
Morning sis! Let me ask u this sis, are you going to let your looks define u? U are so much more than just that. U also have heart, brain and soul. Look at all good things u have, be yourself and don’t let anyone tell u what beauty is or is not. U are beautiful ❤️
A Woman in every shape and form is beautiful. Don’t let anybody make you feel otherwise ladies!
We are only given this one body so love it and look after it. The focus should be on keeping healthy and nourishing our bodies with good wholesome food, prioritising sleep and doing some form of exercise everyday. That is what will keep you resilient to life’s ups and downs it’s the strength you find from within.
Those who are quick to body shame are usually either unaware of the impact their comments have, or simply don’t care. That is when boundaries have to be laid down that this is not acceptable and to protect your own well-being.
Yesss! Set and stick to your boundaries!
As a girl, I’ve had some experience with body shaming. Both on the receiving end and I’m sure at some point I unfortunately have done it also. Other than someone being a genuinely mean and malicious person, it all comes down to insecurity. Stay strong and stay confident because you are healthy and beautiful in your body and mind xx
Hello hun. Trust me I believe it comes from a place of insecurity and a place of needing to feel good about themselves. They tear people down so they can feel like they’re doing something right, making a difference or putting someone beneath them to bring themselves up. It all stems purely from insecurity… someone who is secure in themselves doesn’t feel the need to say or do things such as that PERIOD!!!