hi skb, I need advice from the ladies on here. I am an African American woman and I work in a large corporate office here in dubai. I want to ask if other professional females have suffered different treatment because they may not be as good looking or as attractive as some of their female colleagues. I am secure in myself, I am proud of the way I look. could I exercise more? yes. could I eat better? yes. but I try my best and I am happy with my appearance. however, I have started to notice that some of my colleagues get treated with more respect, more compassion, more understanding than others. I know it could be down to many factors, but I cant help but think that the more attractive colleagues get treated differently because they simple appear more appealing than others. What are your thoughts on this topic. please know this is in no way trying to create a racial debate or anything, I just want to know if other women know or have felt how I am feeling. My size, colour, height, size of my chest, condition of my teeth, length of my hair should not impact the amount of respect I get or the kindness others show me. I feel sad honestly. @catmumknowsbest
Unfortunately my dear, in the world we live in it’s a shame that most people judge others on their appearance. and the workplace is no different. I think everyone gets judged on it to a certain degree,
Someone once told me that they deliberately used to put “pretty faces” on customer facing roles in the company because it was good for business. I remember being so disgusted by it but then I realised that my company are not the only ones doing this, and that im sure many businesses are doing it. in relation to what you posted, I have seen the way people get away with murder because the male manager finds them attractive, however I have also seen women treat younger, prettier colleagues horrendously. I think if it is getting you down so much, it might be worth having a think about whether this company is a place that you want to continue working for especially when issues like respect, compassion and understanding are being effected here. You are worth so much more and should not have to feel this way at all.
Hello, I left corporate world about 3 years ago because I was bullied by senior leaders and I am sure that some of it was to do with the fact that I didnt fit the aesthetic of the team. I remember feeling so unworthy every single day and I no matter how hard I worked or what amazing ideas I brought to the table, it was never ever appreciated. I left and I can tell you sister, that I have never felt so good. I now work for myself, I set up an online tutoring business and I now teach students and tutor students completing their accounting exams. I urge you to re-evaluate your position and put your self worth first xx
Heyyy so I work in a predominantly male dominated environment and I see it all the time how men lust and fall over attractive women. I have heard it with my own ears, how men speak about their female colleagues too. it’s disgusting. I dunno if the women are at an advantage because the men dont value what they bring to the table or the work they do, they just see them as eye candy. it’s so wrong.