hey skb. I want to talk about divorce with the other ladies. I want to talk about why society in this day and age think it is okay to shame and pity a woman who is either divorced, or has decided to start the proceedings of divorce. I have suffered at the hands of my husband for almost 10 years. I got married very young – I was 24 and a decade of my life has been spent in a physically and emotional abusive marriage. I have spoken to a few of my close family and friends, and on the whole most have been understanding. however some have tried to convince me to stay, to work on my marriage, to think of the impact on my son, to think of how I will be alone when I am older. to think of the label “divorced woman”. I am shocked that some people still have this stigma they attach to divorced women. How have other women overcome this judgement and/or shame? Please tell me there are women out there who know or have known how this feels.
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hello, I had to comment on this post because honestly, ive been there. I would say just don’t talk about it unless you have to and this moment in time does not define you for a lifetime. I know someone who once said something about his sis in law being divorced and acted ashamed. We are good friends and I said, I am divorced also and it’s because of abuse. I think this helped change his view on divorced people. I would just continue to live life and be proud of continuing on with your desires and build new dreams. peoples opinions dont matter and wont matter.
Dear let me tell you something. I am embarrassed but not because I am a divorcee. I am embarrassed that my husband didn’t want to stay with me. I am also embarrassed he started seeing someone very quickly who is much younger than me and im embarrassed to be an “older” woman who is single with no living children. I feel embarrassment and shame because my marriage didnt work out, not so much about what others say to me. Maybe I need some time to process everything who knows but I just wanted to share how I feel and how sad my heart feels about it all.