Hi She Knows Best,
I feel quite lonely and low as I type this message, and I am hoping other women will be able to support me and give me some advice. I am 44 years old and divorced. I have been married once and have no children. Recently, I found out that an old school friend had passed away and she had no children or partner. It really hit me, that life is so short, and I may die alone.
I am successful, can take care of my own financial responsibilities, provide for my parents and live comfortably. I just can’t shake that feeling of “missing” something or someone in my life. I have tried different hobbies but I am quite limited because my job requires me to work long hours.
Can anybody please share some advice about finding love later in life? I know it isn’t impossible, but I am worried that men will be put off by me because of my age. Please be kind in your comments, I just feel so sad and worried that I will be alone and unloved forever.
@homecentreknowsbest
Hey Homecentreknowsbest,
First of all, thank you for opening up and sharing your feelings. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable, and I want you to know that you’re not alone in these thoughts. Many of us have gone through similar phases, questioning our place in life and worrying about being alone. It’s completely natural to feel this way, especially when a loss or a major life event makes us reflect.
I want to start by acknowledging your strength. You’ve built a successful, independent life, and that’s something to be really proud of! But I understand that even with financial security and accomplishments, it can still feel like something is missing—having someone to share it all with can be a deep longing.
In terms of finding love later in life, let me offer you some encouragement: it is absolutely possible! There are so many stories of women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond who have found fulfilling relationships. People are increasingly looking for deeper, more meaningful connections as they get older, and your life experience, maturity, and independence can be incredibly attractive to the right person. The right partner will appreciate these qualities, not be put off by them.
It may help to shift your focus from the fear of being alone to the excitement of new opportunities—whether that’s in love, friendships, or personal growth. You could try connecting with people who share similar interests, maybe through online platforms, social events, or even groups related to your hobbies (even if your time is limited). The important thing is not to give up on the idea that love can come at any stage of life.
Lastly, remember that you are deserving of love just as you are, and that can come from many sources—romantic partners, friends, or even deeper self-love and acceptance. Be kind to yourself during this time, and know that there’s no “wrong” way to live life. It unfolds differently for everyone.
Sending you a big virtual hug and positive thoughts! xxxx
Lipstickknowsbest
Dear homecentreknowsbest, I know you might have heard this 100 times but I believe that love often comes when you least expect it. Focus on building a fulfilling and purposeful life for yourself—pursue your passions, connect with friends, and embrace new experiences. Stay open to meeting new people and be patient x
Dear homecentreknowsbest
There is no age limit to finding love.
There are many who are in the same position as you so don’t give up.
Pursue the things that make you happy.
Love the life you have and keep an open mind to meeting new people especially those who you may not initially have much in common with or may not feel physically attracted to.
Look for the qualities and values that align with yours those are much more important in later life x
Hi @homecentreknowsbest I felt really emotional while reading, what you’re going through really resonates with my own experiences.
Throughout various ups and downs in life, I’ve also found myself single later on in life and although i knew it wouldn’t be easy, it feels impossible to find someone. However I will say this, do not lose hope. You’re not alone and I’ve heard so many success stories from friends who have found the one when they least expect it. I’m a firm believer in manifestation, so manifest those good things and believe it will happen! in the meantime work on being the absolute best version of yourself. Love yourself before you’re ready to love someone else.
Sending you love and positive vibes x
I just want to say @homecentreknowsbest, your words were so beautiful to read. wow, thank you for being so honest and open with us. Look, finding love later in life can be a beautiful yet daunting journey. It’s never too late to connect with someone who values you for who you are so take your time and trust that love can come when you least expect it. I love that you focus on your own happiness and passions, and when you’re ready, love will find its way to you. Keep your head up and know that you are deserving of the greatest love there is xxxxx