Hi SKB Sisters!
I was watching an episode of “Euphoria” the other day and saw a scene that really got me thinking. Yes, I’m super late to watching this show, and yes is it predominantly aimed at the teen market. What is a 30 something woman watching this show I hear you ask but I don’t care, I love a bit of teen drama. And I really want to know what you all think of this situation. In this scene, a girl has broken up with her boyfriend but the extended friendship circle from that relationship continued to interact and hang out with one another. One such friendship that continued was the girl’s best friend and her ex-boyfriend. They saw each other at parties, day to day at university and had each other’s number (I think!). They started dating and the best friend decided to make both of their lives a living hell. The ex-boyfriend ended the relationship before it had even started. So, it got me thinking – is it ever okay to date your friend’s ex-boyfriend after they break up? What does “girl code” say about this?
So here’s my thoughts…When one of your friends, especially your best friend, is going through a break up, it is up to us girls to march over to her house with a bag of goodies and our Netflix password in hand to tell her how much her ex-partner was a bum anyway (even if he wasn’t that bad of a guy!).
But whilst the above is the ideal scenario, I understand that sometimes feelings can be intense, and some girls may be thinking about whether dating the ex is “worth it” or not.
Personally, if you feel that this is something you want to pursue you should seriously consider the potential result in the loss of your friendship. Regardless, it is a sensitive conversation you should have with your best friend. Its never a good idea to pursue such a relationship behind her back. Some girls from my past experiences have seen it as a betrayal by their friend whereas others have moved on completely and wished their friend well. It boils down to one thing – communication and complete transparency. You owe your friend that. With all that said, it might be wise to remember a quote that is plastered all around many schools – “treat others, how you would want to be treated”.
Let me know your thoughts SKB – Am I being unreasonable and placing too much emphasis on the feelings of the best friend? Or is it totally reasonable, to seek out a new relationship with a friend’s ex as it didn’t work out between them anyway? Comment below and let me know!
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