Hi girls, I recently organised a gender reveal with my husband, 2 sons and myself at home. My sister organised a cake that would have either blue or pink sponge inside to tell us of the gender. I received some negative comments from my sister about my reaction in the video when I found out I was having another boy. I just want to get this off my chest. Please know I am incredibly grateful and blessed to be pregnant whether that be with a girl or a boy, especially as it didn’t happen quickly for us. And all I really wish for is a healthy baby. But if you would of asked me what gender I would have asked for, it would have been a girl & that’s ok.
I’ve got 2 amazing boys already and I had always dreamt of having a daughter. And as this will be my last baby, I was a little sad about not having all my dreams coming true. I hadn’t just wished to have a girl because I wanted to dress her up in pretty things, share clothes and go shopping together, but I wanted to be there for her prom, her wedding, her baby’s birth and to also go away on girly trips away.
If you have felt the same, just know your feelings are valid and it doesn’t make you a bad person or unappreciative of being pregnant. I can’t wait to raise another boy and I know this is what’s meant for me.
@dollarknowsbest
Hi @dollarknowsbest,
Thank you for sharing your feelings so openly. I want you to know that what you’re feeling is completely valid. Gender disappointment is real, and it doesn’t make you any less grateful for your baby boy. It’s okay to grieve the idea of having a daughter and the experiences you imagined, but that doesn’t take away from the love and excitement you have for your son.
You’re an amazing mom, and your boys are lucky to have you. Allow yourself to feel both joy and sadness—it’s human. Sending you love and support during this special time!
Nailpolishknowsbest xx
@dollarknowsbest, Wow what an honest and beautiful post. I would like to tell you that your words really resonated with me and I admire your honesty and openness. Some women cant understand this way of thinking, but what I would say is it’s okay to feel disappointed so allow yourself to process those emotions without guilt. Enjoy motherhood because regardless of gender, it is a beautiful thing as you are probably well aware. Good luck with your third pregnancy, I wish you all the blessings and love. atlknowsbest x
It’s very natural to feel a little disappointed. We have these ideas of what we’d like to do with our kids, and the experiences we might want to have with them. I have two kids, my son is my first born and honestly I think with it’s quite normal being a female that you’d naturally want a girl. I had that same feeling when I found out I was having a boy but the feeling goes away! Trust me. Please don’t stress about it. The fact that you are having a baby is a blessing in and of itself. Don’t forget your hormones are probably all over the place as well!!! You are blessed at having the opportunity to be a mum and that is the main thing
I never thought I’d say this, but after reading your post it makes me feel more human and normal. So when I found out the gender of my baby, I actually felt really really disappointed. I know it sounds terrible, and I felt guilty for even having that reaction. But it was harder to process than I thought it would be. I had all these hopes and expectations, and when things didn’t turn out the way I imagined, it really threw me off. I knew I’d love my baby girl no matter what, but at the time, it was just a lot of emotions to sort through. I have always wondered if anyone has been through something similar, so it’s so nice to read this post and to hear how you handled it. Thanks so much x